One of the most persuasive problems couples have when trying to reconcile after a husband’s affair is that the wife believes that he really still loves her and wants to be with her. This can be particularly true if you claim to be “in love” with the other woman.
Sometimes the other woman will make this claim (while the husband denies it) and the wife will desperately want to believe that it is not even close to being the truth. Someone might ask, “Do married men ever tell the other woman that they are in love with her? The other woman my husband cheated on is telling me that he told her that he had never loved more than he did. mistress. Encounter This is a bit hard to believe. I come from a culture where mistress was disrespected and everyone knew it was just about sex. People generally believed that a man loves his wife, but lust to her lover. She imagined my husband having sex with her without much conversation and without exchanging words about her feelings. But she insists that is not true. She insists that he told her he loved her almost every time they were together Of course, she has no proof of this at all. That makes me disbelieve her even more. And my husband denies ever expressing feelings of love for her. I want to save my marriage, but I’m not sure I can if I believe that he really loved her. The matter is over. or. He’s been with me almost every waking moment since I found out, so I think he’s broken up and maybe all of his ‘love’ claims are because he’s trying to tear us apart so he can have it. But I’m curious if married men tell the other woman that they love her. “
Men can express love for several misleading reasons: From the correspondence I receive, it is quite clear that in some cases, yes, this claim is made. I think the reasons a husband makes this claim can certainly vary. Some men are dealing with a woman who is not going to go through with the affair unless she believes that he loves her and that they are going to have a future. (And then he tells her what she wants to hear). Other men may truly believe they are in love with her at the time, but then quickly change their minds when faced with the prospect of losing their marriages.
Putting it in perspective: I know that what I am about to say may seem insensitive and I do not intend for it to come out that way. But think for a second about what really matters. Her husband has made no attempt to see her and seems perfectly content to end the affair and move on with their marriage. Does this sound like a man who is desperately in love with the other woman?
If he loved her so much, he would have refused to end the affair and would still be actively in that relationship. But this is not the case. He thinks of you. And he chose to break up with her abruptly and completely. This is not the behavior of a man who is deeply in love with another woman.
And I am not defending the behavior of your husband or any man who cheats. I know firsthand how hurtful and devastating that behavior is. Yet at the same time, I think most men are telling the other woman what he thinks she wants to hear.
Why an affair doesn’t meet the criteria for a ‘loving’ relationship: A relationship based on lies and secrets cannot be a very loving relationship, just by definition. Most of the time, the other woman desperately wants to believe that she is loved because that makes things easier for her. I’m not saying I’m lying. He could have told her that he loved her. But its behavior at the moment does not indicate that it does.
We all know that truly loving relationships are built over time. They require honesty, loyalty, and truth. They often emerge gradually and mature as the couple goes through the storms together. Most of the time, an adventure does not meet this criteria. It’s a short-term thing that usually happens when a man is struggling emotionally and therefore has nothing emotional to give the other woman. You may feel better thinking that he loves you. But the fact that he keeps her a secret, gives her a little of his time, and usually abandons her the moment his wife finds out is not very indicative of true love.
So yes, married men sometimes tell the other woman that they love her. But certainly not everyone is serious. Many say it just to make things seem easier from a moral point of view. And they quickly drift away from this view once they have been grasped or once enough time passes for them to see their feelings a little more clearly.