“I can try to protect myself from my sadness by not talking about my loss. I can have the secret hope that the person who died will return if I don’t talk about it. However, difficult as it is, I must feel it to heal.” that. “~ Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.

Pain is a powerful force that humbles even the strongest of character. The pain of sadness makes almost everyone feel sorry for themselves. You are not the exception. Pain has invited you to a compassion party; you can stay as long as you like. Some feel sorry for a long time. Others are able to gather strength they did not know they had and overcome their misery and begin to build happiness again. Everyone must feel and understand their pain in order to heal. One thing to think about is whether your grief experience has made you feel sorry for yourself and for how long.

You can’t get your old life back

As much as you want it, as much as you pray and hope, you cannot make your life go back to the way it was. It can be very complex and painful when someone you love dies or you experience some other horrible and lasting consequence in your life. Dealing with who or what you’ve lost is like inviting a cloud of dark mist to suffocate you as it hangs from your neck at every waking moment. Understanding your thoughts and feelings is challenging. Sorting out what happened and how you deal with the new now in your life may seem pointless. Terror, resentment, sadness, depression, grief, and even hatred and anger can describe your grieving emotions. After your extremely painful circumstance, you are likely to feel sorry for yourself. You can often feel sorry for yourself. You are in the middle of an overwhelming crisis. Oh, how can you wish to get your old life back! The big question you must answer for yourself is how long it will take me to reconcile my pain.

Crying releases tension and expresses your need to be comforted.

Tears won’t bring back who or what you’ve lost. Tears can make you feel better. The ability to release your emotions by crying can help you begin your healing journey as you learn to understand your pain and move toward greater joy. Let’s face it head-on: the tragedy in our life makes us feel pain for our new circumstance and for ourselves. It is unwise and probably unrealistic for you to assume or declare that you have everything under control. Let’s be honest, you probably said why, or why this happened to me, or woe is me. In many Eastern countries it is understood that sobbing and crying are a normal part of mourning and mourning.

When they amputated my leg

My grieving journey made me feel sorry for myself. I was absolutely stunned when my doctor stood by my bedside with a serious look on his face and said, “Duane, you really have two options, sometime next year you can probably sing with the choirs over there” or us. amputate. “My beloved Joan, companion for many years, was there in the room. When I looked at her and saw her tears, bottomless emotions flooded over us. As we listened to Dr. Beal explain the whys and whys. His description was very clear about how quickly the type and progress of the staph infection I had could end my life.

Scared, terrified, panic are words that come to mind. I was devastated. A passionate fear of this magnitude had never been part of my life experiences. My fears got off my emotional list! Leaving the room, he said, “You need to decide soon. We have tried everything we can do medically to destroy that staph infection, but it is moving rapidly to the leg bone and will soon move to other bones. parts of your body. ” Even after fourteen years, I still remember my emotions. As I mentioned, I was scared, terrified, terrified like I’ve never been before. Yes, I felt sorry for myself. I was devastated. A passionate fear of this magnitude had never been part of my life experiences. My fears got off my emotional list!

I quickly realized how little everything else mattered to me now that I wasn’t sure how long I had left on earth. I felt a higher level of intensity and passion to take care of myself. My prayers became more focused. I wondered why some people experience illnesses like cancer or other extreme circumstances and others don’t. Without a doubt, she had taken life for granted, believing she had plenty of time and how precious each day is. I asked why this was happening to me. I soon realized that it is a useless question with no way out. Instead my thoughts focused on, this is happening to me, now what do I do?

It is beneficial to ask yourself how long you should feel sorry for yourself.

It is not a recently discovered fact, life is not far away. You may well be justified in feeling sorry for yourself. His trial may be due to a terrible tragedy. You may need to have a short little party. You may have considered a short break from everything. However, you cannot wait to wake up from your winter of hibernation to expect a wonderful positive and joyful transformation in your life. Nothing has changed during your sympathy period.

As much as you want, pray and wait because you will not be able to return your life to the way it was. Some circumstances resulting from what has caused your pain can always be a part of your life as you go along. You can often feel sorry for your loss. You will never stop loving someone even if they are gone. You can always cry for what you can no longer have. Afflictions and pain happen. The best question you can answer yourself is how long it will take me to reconcile my pain. Reconcile your pain, overcome your pain and seek a happier and more meaningful life is worth all your effort. It’s okay to feel sorry for your distressed state of affairs. However, don’t let your pain drown out your efforts to create your own new happiness.

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