Your clients, your prospects, your students, your audience, want to hear from you. They want to get a solid feel for you.

They are looking for you to give them an answer. Regardless of what you offer, they need to hear your certainty, in your words and tone. And they need to see it in your body language. You have to be bold.

what is it to speak bravely
Webster defines boldness as showing courage, being distinct and clear, being confident and conspicuous. How does this apply to speaking? When you’re speaking, to be bold you need to:

  • be honest and direct – This is where courage comes in. Just tell the truth. That’s what people want to hear.
  • be clear – Take a stand and say it clearly. Forget trying to please everyone or trying to attract everyone. Doing that makes your message vague, too general, and even confusing. So be clear.
  • be direct: again, take a stand and just say it! Skip your disclaimers, minimizers, and maybes.
  • be sure – Communicate certainty with a strong voice and showing your own enthusiasm for what you offer.

What it is not to speak boldly

Boldness is not aggression. Being bold is being assertive, not aggressive. That is something completely different. I see a lot of confusion here, especially for spirit-focused business women. Because of that confusion, they avoid being bold in speaking and presenting.

Being bold is not about being aggressive or over the top. It’s not about having a hostile side to appear powerful.

Why do speakers get aggressive?
When you’re eager to speak, being a bold speaker can seem almost impossible. Many people use some form of anger to get over their fear. It is anger that takes him away from boldness and turns it into aggression.

They may get angry with themselves and scold themselves enough to FORCE themselves to speak. Or they are motivated by a message in battle mode to find the strength to overcome fear, like a football team in the locker room.

When you rev ​​your engines with all that adrenaline, you come across as aggressive, in your facial expression and in your words. And people run the other way, right? No wonder you’re avoiding this.

What is the solution?
Follow these three steps:

  1. Honestly assess your own speaking style and get outside feedback. Are you bold, aggressive, or (ouch!) forgettable as a speaker?
  2. Keep those qualities of boldness in mind as you craft and deliver your talk.
  3. Eliminate your fears of speaking up so they don’t get in the way of being bold.

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