What one can find is that they can feel good about themselves, even if they are not in a relationship. Then it will be clear that they are not going to depend on anyone else to experience positive feelings.
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Being like this is very likely to prevent them from starting a relationship with someone just because they feel depressed. It might be relatively easy for them to wait until they meet someone they really want to be with.
A different need
Therefore, if they end up with someone, it will show that they really want to share their life with them. Not only will there be an attraction between them, there will be the values they have in common.
This person will then add something to your life, just as you will add something to the other person’s life. However, what is exchanged between them will not be something they must provide for themselves.
The big difference
Ultimately, one will behave as an interdependent human being, as opposed to a dependent human being. There will be what you can give yourself and there will be what you cannot.
Receiving positive feedback from your partner will naturally have a nurturing effect on them. What will be different here is that the fire that is burning within them will not go out if this person were to disappear.
an analogy
One way to understand this would be to imagine that one had a dog before meeting this person, will have a dog when with them, and will have a dog if this comes to an end. This dog will be treated differently throughout these different stages, but it will still be there.
Your self-esteem might drop a bit if your relationship came to an end, but it might not be long until you rise once again. So they’re not going to end up hating themselves at this point.
A balanced human being
In a way, your level of self-esteem will serve as a safety net that will keep you from hitting rock bottom if your relationship comes to an end. They will be much sturdier than they would be otherwise.
It may have taken them several years to reach this point in their own development. For most of their life, they may have been dependent on someone else; lack the ability to experience positive feelings.
a different scenario
If, on the other hand, you find that you can’t feel good about yourself unless you’re in a relationship, you’re likely showing that you’re emotionally dependent on other people when it comes to experiencing positive feelings.
Now, someone like that could end up with just about anyone, or he could be much more selective. Either way, you’re likely to end up putting a lot of pressure on someone else to feel good.
Needy
Without realizing it, one may see the other person as a father figure. One will then be a child who is missing something and his partner will be an adult who is there to contribute what they are entangling.
One of the things that will make you do whatever you can to keep the relationship going is the fear of what will happen if the relationship ends. The most important thing, then, is going to be to make sure that they are not single.
a great effect
Unlike the person above, you will have a dog when you’re in a relationship, but you haven’t had one before and you certainly won’t after. Being in a relationship is not going to stir up the good feelings you already experience; It will cause them to experience feelings that they don’t normally experience.
And, since they do not usually experience these feelings, it is normal for them to become dependent on their partner. This person will be seen as the source of these good feelings.
a long way down
Therefore, if this person ends the relationship, one is likely to end up feeling very depressed. To make up for this, they might end up eating/drinking too much, or they might find someone else to plug the hole that has opened up inside of them.
If one were to look back on their life, they may find that they have always found it difficult to feel good about themselves. What this may illustrate is that their younger years were a time when they did not receive the kind of attention they need to develop in the right way.
Awareness
In other words, they may have been abused and/or neglected when they were younger. However, the most important thing now is that they do something about what is happening.
With the help of a therapist or a healer, for example, they will gradually be able to heal themselves. It all starts with them taking the first step and not giving up.