You just can’t do anything with that little one sitting on your shoulder, right? The little devil who is the green-eyed monster better known as “jealousy”.
Managing jealousy is a must for men, but some just turn to it at all times.
Are you?
I feel like showing him jealousy is the equivalent of eating a couple of sugary donuts.
When I eat a donut, it tastes so good by that time and then half an hour later I regret my decision to eat them because the sugar shoots through my bloodstream and those starchy treats stick to my stomach like a stone.
When you show him jealousy, it makes you feel good in that moment, like you are in total control, but you are actually planting something in your relationship that will sit there like a rock.
Feeling the need to question her in every move shows her your insecurity. And trust me, no clinically sane woman with normal self-esteem wants a jealous guy for her in the long run.
Has your jealousy cost you good relationships over the years? Has it caused an unnecessary conflict?
Why do you keep doing it?
You have to select a woman you can trust to get started. What does it say about you if you feel the need to keep questioning it in every move? What kind of women are you choosing anyway? Is your radar that off when you’re dating her? Why would you get serious with someone you can’t trust?
Obviously, that is rarely the case. You know that it is your own insecurity that drives you to fantasize about things that are simply not real.
You probably explode into a fit of jealousy with her only to regret it later. You will permanently regret it at some point because you know she will walk.
So what can you do to control your jealousy?
1. Remember, if you have a worthwhile woman in your life, OTHER GUYS ARE GOING TO HIT HER. It is a fact of life. If she is a good woman, she will politely decline your advances.
2. If she wants to cheat on you, she will cheat on you. Women are better born into these dating and relationship things than we are. They study it from an early age. Trust me my friend, when it comes to dating and relationships, you are bringing a squirt gun to the fight against her. 38 special. If she intends to cheat on you, there are no number of questions that will stop her.
The key is to select a good, respectful woman with high integrity that you can TRUST and then TRUST HER. You look like a pathetic child in her eyes when you’re so insecure that you keep questioning her every move. I don’t care if you can lift 500 pounds and won 3 titles for fighting, she will think “cowardly” in her deepest thoughts about you if she detects ANY insecurity on your part. And there is nothing that says “insecurity” like showing jealousy.
Remember guys, you have to TRUST her to KEEP her.