So you have a guy, but how do you get a guy to invest in you? What should you do to convince him that this relationship is to be taken seriously? Will a miracle, a magic spell, or some kind of legally binding contract be necessary? If it seems like you are the only one putting something into your relationship, then the following tips are for you. They will show you exactly what it takes to get a guy to invest in you.
1. Back up
It seems like a contradiction in terms, but getting a guy to invest in you is about being less available to him. However, when you think about it, it just seems like a contradiction in terms. After all, you don’t need to invest in something you already own, right? If your man knows that he has you and that he can take you more or less for granted, why should he put in the effort?
On the other hand, if you can convey the impression that he can’t take you for granted and that you might not be around if you don’t get the treatment you deserve, he has to put some effort into keeping you. Back off a bit, don’t return her phone calls once in a while, and spend some time alone with your friends and family. This is especially effective at the beginning of a relationship.
2. Be clear about what you mean
When you say you want your man to invest in you, what do you really mean? This is important, because your man may very well think that he is investing in you and the relationship, simply by being there. If he wants more commitment, security, and time together, he should say so.
Put it this way: “When you do X it makes me feel Y, so I’d really like it if we could Z.” For example, “When you take the time to take me to the mall to go shopping, it makes me feel really special because I know it’s not something you enjoy. I really wish we could do that together more often.” And maybe we can find a way to make it more enjoyable for you.”
Putting it that way makes it more of a win-win and less of a lawsuit.
3. Become a golden investment opportunity
Your man will invest in you if you are something worth investing in. That means investing in yourself first. If you are an independent and fascinating person, who leads a rich and fulfilling life with your own friends and interests, you will probably want to invest more time and commitment in the relationship, because you are a good match.
Getting a guy to invest in you means being honest and being the kind of woman who makes him feel good when she’s around, and we all want to invest in things that make us feel good.