Many women who are in a relationship tend to give too much to their partner. Often too late, they realize that their romantic partner is not afraid of losing them. No, it’s not. If your guy isn’t afraid of losing you, you need to sit down and ask yourself why. The quick and easy answer to this is because they are not afraid that you will ever leave them. You’ve made it easy. After all, they’ve seen you put up with their countless nonsense, bad behavior, and bad manners, so what’s going to hurt you once again? It’s you who gets hurt, not him. So why should he stop for fear of losing you? Since you haven’t left yet, he doubts you ever will. When you make abnormal behavior acceptable in a relationship, it becomes the norm in your relationship. This is the fastest, quickest, and easiest route to a dysfunctional relationship.
If you want him to be afraid of losing you, you will have to defend yourself. Nobody is afraid of a weakling. A strong and empowered woman knows that she has to back her words (or ultimatums) with actions and her punishment with actions. If you don’t mean it, she won’t believe you. If he knows you’re afraid of losing him, no matter what he does to you, how can you expect him to be afraid of losing you? When you show him that you will stay with him, compromising your own respect, dignity and happiness, why should he be afraid of losing you? It shouldn’t and it won’t!
You want him, or any other man you date or are in a relationship with, to have a natural and normal fear that if he makes a serious mistake, he will lose you. But for that to happen, the first time he screws up so much you have to end things, end them in a believable way, even if you’re just making a point and hoping he’ll say sorry. If it’s not believable, fear goes out the window and you’re scary as a puppy. Think of all the things we fear. Are we afraid of these things because they will make us lose something, hurt us, or kill us? That’s where most fears come from, the fear of death, loss or pain, isn’t it? If you’re the only one feeling pain or loss, why should you expect him to be afraid? Do you think he will be afraid of your tears, your pain, or your broken heart? He won’t!
A good place to start working on healthy fears in a relationship is to first examine your own fears. If your fear of losing him is so great that you allow him to tolerate his bad behavior without taking a position, you will never achieve the proper balance or mutual respect in the relationship. If you are afraid of risking losing a relationship that is not working, you need to realize why you allow yourself to stay in a relationship where you are not valued or respected. Remember, once they lose respect for you, their feelings will change anyway, it’s just a matter of time. Why? Because you can’t really love what you don’t respect. By tolerating intolerable behavior, you may be able to hold onto it for longer. But expect the abuse to continue, or get worse, because you’ve taught her that she can do terrible things to you and she won’t lose you. Don’t expect him to feel too guilty either. If his hurt feelings aren’t enough for you to put yourself first, you can’t expect him to put his feelings first either.
If you want him to be afraid of losing you because he won’t tell you how he feels, then stop telling him your feelings as a first step. If you want him to be afraid of losing you because he doesn’t have time for you, stop spending time with him. If he hasn’t committed to you yet, then certainly don’t act or behave as if you are already committed to him. If you want him to be afraid of losing you if he cheats on you, then if he does, end the relationship immediately and keep quiet for a while. If you want him to be afraid of losing you, then you need to act as if he is losing you when he does things that you find unacceptable.
If the man you love disappears from you out of nowhere and then reappears in your life out of nowhere, you need to realize that there’s a good chance he will because you showed him that he can and can get away with it. . He’s not afraid of losing you because he’s done it many times and you’ve never moved on, found someone else, or turned him down. Sure, you may have criticized him for it, but he’s not afraid of your words. He’ll just be afraid that you’ll either move on or reject him when he comes back. Have you done any of those things? If he hasn’t done it, he is not shocked that he has done it over and over again. You have to see how he is not afraid of losing you. Every time you let it happen, you showed him that he can do it again and that he should be afraid of losing you when he does it. So your options are to find the courage to face this situation head on or to accept the fact that he will never be afraid of losing you.
It is time to accept certain facts. If you really believe that he can change and that he loves you, then it’s time to put your foot down. If he really can’t change, why keep waiting for a change that may never come? Most people only change when they have to, so shouldn’t you make him HAVE TO? If you’re holding on because you think he doesn’t love you enough to change or he doesn’t have it in him, then what are you doing with him anyway? How long should you be unhappy before you realize that being in this relationship makes you unhappy? Do you deserve happiness, either with him or without him? If being with him makes you totally miserable, it’s time you faced your fears of losing him!
Why should you let your fear drive you? Why are you so afraid of demanding respect? Why are you afraid to tell him how you want him to treat you? Are you like this with everyone in your life or just him? If it’s just with him, then you have to ask yourself why you were changed for the worse by someone who treats you worse than anyone in your life. Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t bring out the best in you and instead brings out the worst in you? Until you are strong enough to admit that you can lose him, you will only continue to lose yourself to the point where you no longer recognize the woman you have become.
Not all men will fear losing you. Many men withdraw and mistreat women as a way to get rid of them. The problem is that many women just won’t let go and instead hold on tighter than ever. Sometimes we just aren’t valued by the people we love the most, but either way, you don’t want to know the truth or you just want to waste more and more time living in fantasy land? Just because you believe in fairy tales or miracles doesn’t mean they come true for you.
Keep in mind that standing his ground and creating and enforcing healthy boundaries does not guarantee that he will step up. Every relationship is unique, and he may just not be afraid of losing you because he doesn’t care or love you enough to do the right thing. They may enjoy the unhealthy dysfunctional relationship you have and resist any change. We can tell you if he’ll regret losing you and step up or if he’ll let go and find someone else to treat you like dirt. What you do with that information is entirely up to you.
Fear can keep us from taking the person we love for granted, from stepping out of line, or from doing anything to risk losing the person we love. If only one person in a relationship has that fear, the relationship will always be one-sided. It will never grow, mature or last. It is time to face your fear of losing a relationship that is going nowhere. It’s time to create a little fear for the one you love, or it’s just time to let it go and move on to something better.
If he doesn’t value you or the relationship he shares with you, how are you going to value yourself? You can’t you won’t Because if you did, you would walk away from this idiot who gives you so little value… So why do you still value the relationship? Why are you so afraid to let go? It won’t bother him if you let him go anyway, so why do you keep holding on to him?
It all comes down to a little fear in a relationship is healthy for the relationship. When both parties have a natural fear of missing out, they respect the relationship and respect each other. When you are the only one who is afraid in the relationship, the fear grows, and so does the neglect and abuse. There is a chance to bring healthy fear back into your relationship before it is too late. You owe it to yourself to find out if it’s really possible and how to improve your relationship.