If something bad happened to you in the past, it may stay on your mind forever.
It’s a pretty daunting introduction, but the truth is harsh and also very important.
You may experience a series of rapes, emotional torment, or even physical abuse. Destroy your adult life.
Lets start by the beginning. Childhood plays a fundamental role in human life. Helps develop self-esteem, self-confidence, and essential life skills. So entering adolescence is a joy and a pleasure.
Many people experienced the opposite. Its beginning was confusing and painful. They got nothing but pent-up talents, pain, and depression.
This painful theme of emotional trauma is still around these days. Your mind can block out all traumatic memories and feelings to protect you. You may even believe that your childhood was fantastic and carefree.
Presumably his parents or close relatives sexually abused him. Since you were a child, you interacted with these people on a daily basis.
Children can create a strong bond, especially with parents. In other words, they crave love and attention. It also makes them loyal and vulnerable to harm. They are trustworthy so they cannot notice any danger to your person.
If you grew up in a dysfunctional family, you got used to pain and suffering. He did not realize or understand what was happening. How can a young child even name a situation as toxic and abusive?
If you were hurt, your weak mind accepted this as true for you. If this is true, it means that you are a sick child; you don’t deserve for love, you’re not good enough, etc.
When children start to feel this way, they punish themselves to correct their behavior. So the only way is to take the blame and responsibility for the abuse. They do everything possible to protect the family. Maybe one day they will get a little love in return.
Then they can still have ‘their beloved and perfect family’ in their young la-la world mind.
Yes, they hypnotized you with a fake agenda. It made your mind clouded, it was not clear and confused to see the truth. He believed and accepted those lies as fact. It is also a pretty bad start to creating a happy life.
It’s like a shot in the foot when you blame yourself and take all the blame for your abuser’s violence. It is as if a computer virus has infected your mind.
It drains your essential life energy and makes you unhappy and depressed. You cannot be happy and carefree.
Humans avoid pain at all costs. If they don’t know how to get rid of it, they hide and pretend it doesn’t exist. Hiding and pretending your life will never solve anything.
There is a solution to this drama. You must face the abuse and accept the challenge to purge it from your heart if you are ready to do so.
Then, freedom, self-empowerment and vital energy will be calm again.